"Guilt is one of our greatest enemies: it's linked to both our primary emotional connections and the demands of society, which expects unattainable things."

According to Freud, the feeling of guilt "was, in the beginning, a fear of punishment from parents or, to be more precise, of losing their love." Is this how guilt is generated? In therapy, they listen and sometimes don't realize how they're communicating, so I have to intervene. "If someone said that to you, what would it be? Pause for a moment. Terrible! An attack. What if you said this to your daughter? It's impossible! But one includes that punisher. From your perspective, what are the most frequent feelings of guilt? It's about not being enough, which is also subtle: I'm not enough for the other person, I should give them more, I'm guilty of not doing what I should. If I try to find a pattern, it's that one doesn't deserve: How can I be happy if my brother is suffering? How can I start a new romantic relationship if my ex is suffering? As if my obligation were to everyone else and there wasn't an appropriate place for self-recognition. There are many people who mistreat themselves: I'm worthless, I don't deserve it, I'll never do it, how stupid! Always so clumsy. If your parents make you feel that you are valuable, it ends up being natural. In terms of healthy psychological development, it makes one feel worthy and The other one too; I am an individual who has self-esteem, but who also appreciates others, because if that were not the case, I would be a psychopath or like Magdalena's grandfather, who manifests his aggression in an absolute way.